Creating Memories

“What was the favorite part of your day?” A good question to ask those we love regardless of their age.  For me, yesterday, it was hearing our grown son and his Dad playing chess as the evening sunshine still warmed the deck. 
At the end of each day, regardless of

our age, we can reflect on what was memorable about today. What made this day different? What was special that I can I talk about? For the caregiver, this perspective opens vast opportunities to create. What memories can I create today?
Finding fresh ways to create memories shouldn’t be an additional chore on your list. Special moments in a day needn’t be major events. A single flower, a pleasant aroma, a favorite song, a flock of birds in flight, or a simple dish of a favorite food is the start of triggers that will last beyond a lifetime.  Appreciating the smallest moments in the company of the elder can create lasting memories for both of you.

Matching Dresses
Kathy and her Mom, July 1957

What is important in creating memories is that you are providing an opportunity for both of you to answer the question, “what was the favorite part of your day?”

Thanks for Listening,
~Kathy

When Is It Time to Consider
Moving Mom

First you get phone calls that seem kind of strange. Mom fired her cleaning lady of several years because "she is stealing from me."
A week later, she mentions her high school sweetheart who's coming to take her to dinner. You think, OK, it could be true.
Then the neighbor calls in the middle of the night. "Your mom has been wandering the neighborhood and could not find her home.”
Now you know. The forgetfulness, the fantasies, are more than aging confusion – is it Alzheimer's, or something like that? Your brother refuses to acknowledge there is a problem and your sister suspects the worst. In most families, women — daughters or daughters-in-law, aunts or nieces — typically assume the